Relationship Rescue Make up Before You Break up

Relationships often go through rocky patches. This is actually normal, a relationship which doesn't have any ups or downs is not working. However, in the downs we can often make misguided decisions and trash what would normally be a very satisfactory relationship.

There are very good reasons to break up some relationships. For example if your friend is abusive (physically, emotionally or mentally), if your friend is a financial disaster area, if your friend is too emotionally immature or there really isn't any romantic attraction.

Mostly though, the very things that originally attracted you both to each other are still in play and can be used to rebuild and repair a shaky patch.

Probably the first things you need to do are to visit Relationship Rescue Master and take the two quizzes there. These will help you and your friend assess your romantic attraction and your emotional maturity. Often the results are clear cut and you can then make far better decisions.

After that, if you are still looking like a couple who can make your relationship work, you need to learn more about how to do all the things that will keep you together happily. Interestingly enough, the ebook "Magic of Making Up" actually has nearly as many tips and methods to keeping your relationship as it does on how to make up with your ex.

In the introduction he talks obout the importance of keeping a level hea, this is also valid if you are considering breaking up.

Chapter 1 talks about why relationships break up, you can probably relate to some of these. Recognising the symptoms is the first step to resolving them which is what you reallt want isn't it?

Chapter 2 has advice about what to do and not do when you are feeling hurt after a break up but these also are relevant to the feelings of hurt just before a break up aren't they?

He also talks about the feelings of depression after a break up but I can assure you, not that you need me to tell you, that these feelings are just as common before any break up as well.

The best bit in chapter 2 is the technique he explains on how to overcome those feelings. This technique is well known to therapists as well and is very commonly used by very expensive NLP practicioners. It can be used for way more than relationship problems, there are applications through your whole life. What a bonus.

Chapter 3 deals with assessing your relationship and working out what went wrong. You should also use this time to work out what went right. Both are important and both are discussd in this chapter.

One of the many interesting sections deals with the concepts of love and hate and points ut that they are not opposites. I hadn't really thought about it but I think he might be right.

Chapter 5 is not recommended unless you have actually broken up as your friend just might not understand.

You can take some of the concepts and use them though and they can help but be a little careful in how you implement them.

Chapter 6 is highly relevant to you and should be studied with care while chapter 7 is where it all comes together for you. Thisalso should be studied with care and implemented just as carefully. Hey, the results will be more than worth it to get this right.

If you have done your best but it still isn't working then it really is OK to break up. You really don't want to spend the rest of your life with someone who will eventually just get on your nerves all the time. Give them a chance to start over as well.

Good Luck.

Magic of Making Up